Monday, April 25, 2016

Enough is enough....

     Do you think a rapist would be a rapist if they really cared about the law? Regardless of a person's stand point on this bathroom propaganda, some where out there countless women AND men AND children are going to be exploited by a sexual predator, and those victims don't have to be in just a bathroom to be violated. Pretty soon this bathroom business is going to just be old news and no one would have discussed the real issue.
     That there are thousands upon thousands of victims that are not being heard because topics like this one only overshadow the actual problem. Everyone can voice their opinion on this transgender topic as is their right to do. But doesn't anyone realize that some of the people who struggle with their gender identity may have been abused themselves at some point in their life?
     Maybe instead of pointing your judgmental fingers at them you should talk to them and maybe understand where they are coming from and get to know them as a human being instead of automatically labeling them as rapist or peepers just because they need to go potty. You know when the appropriate time is to label those people? If you actually catch them doing something wrong!
     What gives me any right to say any of this? What's my experience with this issue??
Here's where I am coming from:
     I was sexually molested by my own father in my own home from the time I was 9 to the time I finally told someone when I was 14. Was I in a public restroom at Target? No. Was I being peeped on by a transperson using a female restroom? No. I, Shari Scarlett Lazar McHoes, was sexually violated by my father in the very place where I was supposed to be the safest.
     Am I ashamed to admit this? My answer is; FUCK NO. It was never my fault, and as a 9 year old I had never done anything to deserve what happened to me. Let me tell you one thing though... After my father was incarcerated and I started to grow into a curious teenager, I DID struggle with my sexuality at one point, but I chose to be straight. At this point in my rant let me clarify that I am speaking purely from my own experience and this doesn't apply to everyone, but if you can relate, please, PLEASE speak up and let us discuss a real issue.
     There are so many victims out there who are ashamed to speak up, yet here we all are arguing about who should use what bathroom. Who gives a crap, LITERALLY. Everyone has to defecate or urinate somewhere. So as long as it is in a toilet, port-a-potty, outhouse, or woods, no matter if you are male or female or in transition, I don't care.
     No matter what your gender is, if you peep on me, I'm going to confront you. If you're a rapist I'm going to put up a fight!
     Ladies and gentleman let's talk about the actual issues and not this bullshit propaganda. Let's educate ourselves and our kids on the subject that seems to be the main concern of most people complaining of this bathroom issue. Let's talk about sexual assault, and be there for those who need to be heard. I know this is a complicated topic, and most people don't feel comfortable talking about it... let's change that..
Rant over, let us discuss!